Your post just made me laugh. Your right about their mindset!
Sadly, my mind is very weary this week. My kids are such a significant part of my daily routine--now that I'm away, I now realize how much energy I derive from them. And W continues to harp on how she is at the end of her rope (a ten-year rope it seems).
On Wednesday night, I saw C and she told me to get a lawyer. She flat out said that D would be bad for the kids, but W seems so adament that I should be fully cognizant of my rights. My head hurt thinking I'm going through the same "Get on with your life" advice, but I headed to RCIA--where I got a good dose of Luke, the sermon on the Mount, and forgiveness. I actually was advised to pray for OM to remove the bitterness I feel every time I think of him.
On the M front and possible separation, I guess my goal is to do an interim separation agreement that keeps the kids at home, but has me using a small apartment and W staying at her parents while we alternate at our hosue. The C thinks this is reasoanble On my days, I plan on getting the kids off to school, but W to take care of them after school. She HATES the thought of this and says it would destroy the kids -- but that's her projection. More important, any agreement should have to stipulate that no grounds for divorce exist and that the separation was done at the behest of W because of her desire to end the M. I might also add a minimum of eight weeks of counselling. But we'll see.
Anyway, today, I spent some time researching attorneys, hoping I could find someone that has actually worked with couples that reconciled (another $1,000 likely to be spent on a search and consults). I think I may have a good female attorney, but I won't meet with her until the 26th.
Tomorrow night I'll head back to the beach with the W and kids. I'll try to keep the positive faith. Be good y'all.
