The similarities in our sitches scare me. My H and I have also separated more than once and H had a ONS during the last and longest separation. Psycho OW also called months after we got back together.

Sometimes I think we are married to the same person.

My H has also been revealing all kinds of things lately and one was how many people he has been with and it was way more than he told me when we first started dating. I didn't understand why he felt that he had to lie but then he told me that he was ashamed of how many people he has been with and thought I wouldn't give him the time of day if I knew the truth. I think he was expecting me to be judgmental because I have never been with anyone except H.

I just wanted to let you know that I enjoy reading your thread. I can relate to everything that is going on with you and makes me feel like everything I am going through is normal.