Yes, H is a very sensitive guy...I guess I had forgotten that over the last year. He has this tough-guy facade he puts up around everybody else, and even I got it for a very long time during the past year. He's quite good at it--it's so overcompensating he just comes across as an @$$hole--that even I forgot for awhile.
To be honest, I'm really the only one who can get beneath the layer...even his family thinks he is a jerk. I think it just shows his level of comfort with me.
Quote: You're doing great being gentle with your H right now
Thanks. It can be soooo stressfull--especially when I don't think he fully understands how much effort I'm putting in. (BIL2 accused me of being "too nice" last night. LOL!) But that's okay. I do know he appreciates me, and appreciates me staying around him. He knows he's difficult, but I don't think he knows how difficult.
Quote: ...he seems like he is in need of a lot of TLC.
He is. Actually, he always is. But that's okay--we match up nicely here with both of us enjoying touch as a primary LL. (We had a fun discussion on LL the other day...I'm going actually buy the book soon, and maybe we can both go through it.)
To be honest, we've always been very affectionate. That's why I was so confused when he started to pull back from me a year ago. I've learned to make sure I don't take my other frustrations out on him, because that's what makes him not want to be around me.
Quote: I am very contented with our sitch, but it is an adustment.
I think it's the same thing with me. He got a little uptight again last night, talking about moving his stuff out of his mom's. I kind of teased him with "Where are you going to live?" His response, "Where else?" I asked "Where is that?" Him: "With you....is that okay?" I told I was just playing (I really was) and of course he could stay with me. He pointed he practically had been living with me anyway.
He was a little uptight again, so I brought up those places you can rent for a week, and he felt better. (I think he needs to feel like he has a retreat more than he actually needs one...) Then we just talked about future dreams...the kind of house we want...how we're going to have the pool and the hot tub and all the fancy stuff...
When we're together, I feel great. Which is such a nice improvement. I think a little more about it when we're apart, but it's not that bad anymore. I'm definately through the angry phase (wooohoo!) phase with him. Still working my way through the sad phase. Although it's near the end. I feel calm more and more now. And we're really having fun together again...I'm looking forward to the three-day weekend, two nice full days to spend with H.
I think it just shows his level of comfort with me.
But that's okay--we match up nicely here with both of us enjoying touch as a primary LL. (We had a fun discussion on LL the other day...I'm going actually buy the book soon, and maybe we can both go through it.) 
