Quote: As I was looking for my wallet, I noticed W was upstairs on the phone with OM. I could hear the convo through the heating vents. W told OM to keep a low profile on the phone calls, and that she would call him whenever she could. I could probably look at the next phone bill and confront W with it, but I don’t think it would do any good.
Mak, dont confront her. Just keep doing what has been working. Make sure that your M becomes so strong there will be no need for W to call OM any more. Remember, your R is rebuilding, and W is working with you on it, so dont bring up things unnecessarily.
Maby some time down the road after you feel your recovery is more solid, then if things continue you can bring it up, but non-confrontationally. For now just keep working on the M, let the rest take care of itself. You dont want to back up too much, you have too much going for you right now! Your M is strengthining and healing. It will be a long process, and perhaps part of that process is W slowly loosing her dependancy on OM - just keep working on being the more attractive option, whatever that means. Try to find out more about what OM gave to W without accusing or if possible without even asking - just listen to her and make sure there are no un-met needs. Get her to talk about needs out of context of OM...
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