Let her deal with it in her own time. If you get overly pushy about it she will just get angry back - you know this.
I know that at some point I will have to deal with this myself - I know of lots of pix my W has of OM hidden away on cd's - should we reconcile it will be up to HER to get rid of them - I cannot make her.
There are some good threads around somewhere about dealing with reminders of A's - I will try to find them and quote them for you when I have a chance - have you ever read MF's or the Geno threads? they are somewhere in there..
It basically came down to those pics (in the case I remember it was memorabilia from something that OM did with W and kids!) are part of the history of the R - somewhat painfull, but they have to be integrated somehow. There will always be things to remind us of the past, so simply destroying pix will not erase that. Remind yourself it is over, and it has helped you build a better R. Thank that memory for keeping you strong in your resolve.
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