Nah, things are pretty quiet. Pleasant. H and I are doing well. He broke down on me a couple of times really badly the last several days. Same kind of thing I've done. I think we're both traumatized. Ah, well.
I'm enjoying the little things. Like having him there when I come home, or how he has to come give me a big hug after he gets back in at night.
We did have a small disagreement last night. I haven't found a shelf set that will work for setting up his home theater equipment. So we went shopping last night. I want something that already fits the stuff I have--I have this need for my house to look nice, all the deco to match, etc. He just wanted "cheap and strong."
Why we both got upset is beyond me. He kept insisting that I wasn't going to find what I wanted. I told him he didn't understand why this was important to me. He said that he couldn't do it right, since everything he picked I thought was "ugly." (Sorry, I just hate anything in the modern style, like with glass and metal, or that nasty fake-wood-really-a-laminate-crap.) I finally told him he didn't have to understand my taste, just that it's important to me. He said he was trying to clean up my living room for me.
Silly, huh?
So...now the agreement is that I get to look for a couple of weeks to see if I can find what I want. If not, he gets to just go get something.
Anyway, normally I would have decided to pout and not go to the gym with him afterward. But I made an effort to ignore my flight response and go and have some fun with him afterward.
I also noticed that he will in the middle of an argument (even though we never really yelled) will grab for my hand or tell me that he loves me. Normally, when I'm upset with him, I think it in response--but I just can't seem to say it. Then he'll get worried and say "You don't love me anymore, do you?"
Well...duh! Never noticed that pattern before. He's clearly looking for reassurance, and I'm not giving it to him. When I'm upset, the last thing I want to do is make nice. (Feels so contrived to me.) But obviously it's a big deal to him, so I made sure to make the effort last night.
Hm. How come everytime you drop in, I write a novel??
Pleasant. H and I are doing well. He broke down on me a couple of times really badly the last several days. Same kind of thing I've done. I think we're both traumatized. 
