Nevanna- I have had problems in the parental area as well, as recently as Father's Day. That has mostly been my extended family, and my dad a little. My mom has been pretty accepting of my H, since I told her we were in counseling and both doing pretty well at taking responsibility for our actions.
I've kind of had to make the choice with my family - I asked for permission to bring H to a family gathering once, and got negative comments about him. So I didn't go to that one. The next time, I told him to come anyway, and the uncle of mine that he has been closest to told him he was welcome in their house anytime.
I made the mistake when not-so-fun stuff was happening of talking to my family about it - that's where their negative attitude comes from. It seems like they are guided by my attitude. I never act ashamed of being with H (and since you seem to be an independent sort, I bet you don't either), I speak positively of him if he happens to be brought up, and I act relaxed and at ease when he and my family are both around. That seems to have worked for me, and me not coming the one time seemed to help, honestly.
Just my two cents, Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
