Okay, Dave. I think I'm getting it. I went back and read your reply to SuperDave in the Schnarch post, too.
So here's another question for you on this same subject. As you may know, my W has been looking at houses, and I don't really want to move. When I begin articulating reasons why I don't want to move (e.g. my kids will be spending more time in cars; inconvenience in attending school-related events, practices, and lessons; unavailability to be there for them quickly if their crazy mom kicks them out of the house; etc) she minimizes these reasons and tells me that what it really comes down to is that I don't want to move because it is "inconvenient" for me. Well, while that is actually one reason I don't want to move, I actually think the kids-related reasons are valid and more important.
So, instead of telling her "you make me feel like crap when you are essentially calling me selfish for not wanting to move" I should be saying, "I don't like it when you minimize my reasons. They are valid, and when you dismiss them in such a cavalier way, I don't like you very much. Why would I want to go through another move with someone I don't like very much."
