I go into lengthy detail in my response to SuperDave on this very issue.... Why Schnarch may not work
Love from someone else is simply a "perception" manifested inside you. You will never know if someone loves you or not...period. My W might hate me but she is (now) showing behaviors that make me think otherwise. Heck, she might value the lifestyle so much that she's becoming a master thespian. We have no idea what is "real"...and that's fine. All that matters is how we feel about them.
By expressing "I don't feel xxxxx by you", you are giving "ownership" of your feelings to them which has many negative side effects for you. By saying "I don't feel xxxxx for you (and it's my problem)", you are showing yourself as a distinct individual who does not have any expectations of others. Then put on your leather jacket and get on your hog and ride off to the bar for a scotch...straight up.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
