Never knew I was LD until I got married

[cinemanymph]

Thanks for the support, honeypot. Maybe Corri could weigh in on this one?

Because the abuse occured at a young age (4) it is connected to so many aspects of my life on so many levels that it is difficult to get to the root of it and finally be free of it.

I keep hoping that things get better for us without having to do the work, because doing the work means having to give up sex for a while. I know how important sex is to my man.

I didn't have an inkling of how my past would affect my marriage. I didn't even connect the abuse to me until after we were married. My husband is the first person outside of counseling I ever told. He responded by saying he never would have married me if he knew about my past. He says I lied by omission. Instead of taking me in his big strong arms and telling me that he loved me no matter what happened in my past, he accused me and made me feel even dirtier than I already did. This is the man I ML to and endure the subsequent depressions for. I'm wondering if maybe I may have a flaw in my judgement of character.