Nymph,
Do you believe the depression is hormonal in nature, or is it tied to the dynamics of your marriage?

When you do ML do you see it as a "win" for your husband and therefore feel diminished as a person?

Or do you feel fine afterwards and for some reason your hormones go whacky for a few days?

Is it possible that you are depressed all the time and it gets pronounced after times of hormonal activity?

Finally, have you talked to your doctor about the changes that occur after ML and how you feel?

Sorry for so many questions; just trying to get to the heart of the matter.

Hugs,
Honey