Quote: But is this weird or what? WHY so much focus now, all at once, on H's part about guys I havent had contact with for 25 years or longer????????????
Deb - I can definitely relate to this scene. What I think happens is, they start to come back home, turn towards us, and all of a sudden it dawns on them - "Gee, if I was capable of cheating on my wife - maybe she could someday cheat on me?????? Oh No!!!".
I can honestly say I NEVER gave my H any reason to doubt my fidelity - I never even looked at other guys during our M - but I'll always remember this one day, after he had come back to me. We were riding in the car, and my cell phone rang. I was driving, so H answered it, and of course it was our kids. After he finished the call, he was still fiddling with my phone. I asked him what he was doing - well, he was checking my incoming phone numbers, and started quizzing me about some unfamiliar numbers!!! Of course I couldn't identify them - because they were things like the mechanics calling to tell me my car was done, or the plumber returning my call!!!!! I practically burst out laughing in his face! It seems to be a common occurence, though, and usually when they are starting to turn home. I think you handled it perfectly.
Act As If. Be fun to be with. Try new things and get someone else to do those chores for a while - plan a fun weekend AWAY!!
