Your H and mine are definitely alike, in personlities. So, I can relate when you say you need to pursue him. I agree with you with Hs who have issues with pride, they like to be pursued. My H has never been pursued before, he pursued me and he pursued OW so no one really ever pursued him.
Come to think of it, I imagine H as someone whom I have a major crush on. How do I flirt with him? How do I get him to notice me? To fall in love with me? I tried to imagine way back when H pursued me 9 years ago. I just broke off with my exBF then, I was a basket case, I didnt want to do anything with men. Then H came into the picture and pursued. I didnt respond for at least one half years until one day I melted and amazed at his patience pursuing me.
So maybe the trick is to travel back to your early days and put yourself in the position of someone you want to pursue. There is a website on love tactics which teaches how to wint the one you want but you have to buy the system. Try this www.lovetactics.com. I found it a bit informative.
Sometimes the very thing you're looking for is the one thing you can't see..
