Quote: I'm starting to wonder if part of the key to resolving this whole mess the way I want to is going to hinge on just ducking my head, gritting my teeth, and waiting it out...calmly and patiently. I am thinking I'm seeing here on the board that many of the folks who "make it" just put on blinders, grow a very thick skin, and keep on trudging forward, slowly, but never throwing in the towel
I guess you COULD look at it that way...but I prefer to look at it like "I know what's going on (I DID NOT have blinders on), but choose to stick it out until I feel stronger and can make a decision without being in such an emotional state." (Whis was MOST of the time!) I'll tell you...When I relaxed with myself (stopped thinking that I had to DO SOMETHING about this whole situation right now ) AND relaxed with my H, that's when I "began" to start seeing changes. They were very small at first .. just little glimpses here and there, but after a while ... when MY changes stuck, H's changes became more noticeable. I think that your H is on the "edge" of the beginning of those changes. He is caught (like MOST are) between two worlds. Let him "go" to work it out within himself. Don't pressure him for ANYTHING! Just work on yourself. You CAN do this!
