Quote: I'm never sure how much to tell h....what do you think ( or any one else) do I say "I'm going such and such at such and such a time" or do I just leave if he's not home? do I say where I went or just not bring it up unless h does?
If you're intent on leaving that note, then just make it brief. S and I went to the store, library, friends ... whatever. We will be back "shortly". That about covers it, don't you think? Having your S with you COULD really be to your advantage. Especially if you are "out" while your H is out and he has no idea you have been gone. I know my kids (when they were younger) always talked too much. So more than likely your S will end up talking about all of your "mini-road trips". It ALL helps ... whether you feel that there is "mystery" in it or not! I remember my H asking me time and time again about me going to church every Sunday. (I DID ask him to join me, but he wouldn't!) He still asked who I was meeting there. (???) If getting "out and about" is different or a 180 for you...then go for it. If nothing else, it at least makes it look like you are not sitting at home waiting for him. ...AND that you are quite possibly out having a good time ...
