OK guys, somebody stop me here, the devil is after me again..... In the above mentioned article, there is a part that says "There is a reason people keep affairs secrest. It is not because they want to spare the betrayed spouse pain; it is because the affair can be anything the two people fantasize it to be as long as the realtioship is not made public and subjected to reality"..... I am so tempted to run off another copy and highlight that section and another one and drop it into OW's mailbox.....or make another copy and highlight selected portions and leave it on the table in the breakroom where H will eat lunch tomorrow.........
Of course, the angel on my shoulder is reminding me that the most effective course of action is to do nothing.....
hmmmm....this really is a good article, it talks about how the roles of monogamy are split between 2 people when an affair happens and the LBS becomes all the negatives and the other becomes the embodiment of all the positives.....someone posted here recently, either in this thread or the previous one, that now the OW and I have reversed roles, which is what would be meant here. If that is indeed accurate, that would seem to be a huge shift to me. hmmmmmmmmmmm
Of course even thinking about this is hindering my approach to acting "as if" the affair is over/OW doesnt exist.......
