So glad you posted about the funloving things you did. I got a chuckle from reading them! I really do think that having a sense of humor and being light-hearted can make for some wonderful memories. Also, sounds like a lot of 180s for you! Terrific!
As for the whole "port" thing. You just keep building it by getting your own life and dropping the rope. Let the OW do her part in this whole process by coming apart at the seams. (How's that for a whole bunch of meaningful metaphors?)
