Hi again Nevanna, I think we were posting at the same time. I've thought of sharing some stuff w/H but havent for a couple of reasons: -It's a big point of pride with him that he "knows all this stuff"...(yeah, right, that's how we got here!) and he is so resistant to any kind of "authority" that I've thought it would be counter productive to go there. Years ago I got some book on relationships and asked him to read it and he got really angry and just flat out refused, so I've never gone down that cheeseless tunnel again. If your H is expressing interest howevern, I think that's a whole different ball game, and I think it could be very helpful. --I also don't want H to know what I'm up to...this is my place to sort through whats going on and how to respond to it most effectively, and I sure don't want to "tip my hand" so to speak. I was concerned that he read my DR book when he found it for that very reason, (he even commented about how all my highlighting made it a quick and easy read!!!!) but, he has been through the training and used DB professionally, so at cognitive level he knows this stuff anyway....I just really don't want him to know the nitty-gritty of what I'm up to. I even make sure I delete the history file on our computer any time I'm on to cover my tracks. --Damned OW has DR also....I sure don't want her to have any help in drawing up her battle plans. Of course for all I know she's on the bb reading everything I post anyway....but oh well, I'm not going to give her any extra help, and I'm sure he would "spill the beans" to her....
I've often wished I could share some stuff with him that I've found here, but I just have the feeling the time isn't right for me to do that....I guess that's something you have to decide based on your instincts. I believe there is a part in DR that suggests it's best not to share the info. with one's spouse, however. (don't think I dreamed that)
