I'm afraid that my wife wouldn't get past #1 on the list. Any two or three would put me in heaven, but then I suppose I'd want more. About a year ago, our marriage went near crisis mode. Panicking, I went to see a counsellor (sp?) by myself. My wife wouldn't go, and was angry that I was going and spilling so many beans, but it is clear that she appreciated the effort, and started being at least more civil. As I tried to become more romantic (to which she replied, "Why do you keep touching me?") she has become more willing to at least be near me.
Baby steps to be sure, but years of neglect take a while to heal. At this point, my list would start with the occasional kiss. Not unreasonable? Well, for her it currently is.
