I can so relate to that comment. My LDH promised me 3 separate times this past week that we would ML in the evening...and never got back to me on it. I didn't press the issue because I was trying to allow him to initiate with me...which is what he had intimated he would do. By the 3rd evening I was really getting depressed about his lack of action...and when he asked me what was wrong I told him that I was disappointed that we had never ML. He tried to make excuses (we were both tired, I was tired, he was etc) but I told him that was a cop-out...that he knew I've told him countless times I'm never too tired. Anyway...he mumbled something about having sex right then...but his obvious disinterest in it turned me off and I told him that "no one wants mercy sex" (calmly, and not in an angry manner at all). Kissed him and continued to watch tv for a while. He agreed with me that he wouldn't want that either (he's been in my shoes before). One of the things he's battling with is I'm not the type of woman he's used to (he's been mentally abused in the past)..so when I react to a situation in a manner completely unexpected to him...it confuses him and really sends him off balance. Now I'm just tryingto find a wa to use that to my advantage....maybe one of these times when he's off balance he'll just fall on top of me
