Quote: J did not have good role models growing up. His mom has been married 3 times. J's dad was his mom's second husband. They were only married a year; they divorced when J was a year old. J's biological father was extremely abusive.
Thanks for that info... it helps to fill in the blanks. I have to say that the behaviors you describe, the tickling and ... other things, sound at least borderline abusive. It sounds to me like he may enjoy being abusive on some level, or maybe he's got some resentments he doesn't know how to handle, and he's taking it out on you. To the extent that you put up with it, you are an enabler. If he won't get the message, you may in fact have to put everything on the line and actually leave him, at least temporarily. At any rate, if I were you I would not put up with that nonsense even once more...
