First of all...welcome to this board...you aren't alone. There are some other women, including myself who have LD husbands...we can so sympathize with you (and I know the men can too).
Ok...first question...how long have you been involved with your LDH (including dating)? You haven't been married for very long at this point, so I'm wondering if this problem existed before the marriage...or has he done a 180 on you? Also, what do you know about his past relationships, his family etc. Here's why I ask. My LDH was raised in a very nice family...his mom/dad are wonderful people...however they do not express their affection physically...especially not in front of anyone else....this was the first role-model my husband had...then later he was involved with a few very domineering women who used sex as a weapon to control him. This managed to completely squash any desire to initiate sex with a woman...he came to believe that women really didn't want to have sex...so he eventually came to the point where he didn't even think about it. Now we're lucky if we have sex 4-6 times a year...we finally have ML within the last 3 weeks, but prior to that it was a 6 mo dry spell. He NEVER initiates with me and often rejects/rebuffs my advances...not even realizing how much he hurts me. Fortunately he is now in counseling and some behaviors are very slowly changing...but there's still a long road ahead.
