I have to agree with Tim. Get everything out on the table NOW. I don't know how much you've read before you started posting (when I found this board I read EVERYTHING), but if you're read my story you know that I've been in this sitch for over 28 years. The first 12+ years of my M we had NO sex at all. After that it worked up to two or maybe three times a year. But the point is, don't let this happen to you. In this infancy of your M, you and your H, knowingly or not, are establishing behavior patterns that will become increasingly hard to change as time goes on. Don't allow this to go on without making absolutely certain that your H is aware that you see this as a problem, that you consider it to be very important, and that you insist that it be addressed. Trust me, the longer you wait, the harder it gets.
