Poor SuperDave. His Wave has been hijacked by Honeypot.
Anywho...Honeypot, I think we always have to take our spouse's limitations into account. The hard part is to figure out what's a valid limitation, and what is a self-imposed limitation. What's real, and what's laziness? What is something they absolutely can't do, and what is something that they just aren't willing to do.
I know my wife will never be a sex-lovin', dirty-dancin', tongue thrustin', ecstaticly-screamin' nympho, like, for examply, you are. And I accept this as a real limitation she has, whether it be psychological or physical. But I do think that she can be a quiet, demure, shyly sexual woman who could open up to my advances in an enthusiastic way. Instead, she appears to me now to be a sexual dud who sees me as a bother when I make advances.
I will not accept the latter...at least not forever. Now, you need to figure out the difference between what you H is able to do, and what he is unable to do.
And I accept this as a real limitation she has, whether it be psychological or physical. But I do think that she can be a quiet, demure, shyly sexual woman who could open up to my advances in an enthusiastic way. Instead, she appears to me now to be a sexual dud who sees me as a bother when I make advances. 
