Quote: ...what is a reasonable amount of progress and when I should call it a day. I don't want to push to the extent that I freakin ruin everything; on the other hand, I don't want to give up too easily. It is a fine line, as you know.
Sorry to jump in here, HP, but I couldn't resist... temtation.. too.. great...
Anyway, you sound like you think you have to keep pushing continuously till some arbitrary amount of change happens, and then it's over. Sorry, Honey, but I don't think so. I do think that if it becomes apparent that SOME progress has been made, and an extended period of no FURTHER progress happens, it's okay to take a breather, step back and re-evaluate. Spend a bit of down time in the comfort zone, then plunge back into the growth cycle. Cycle back and forth. Otherwise, as you suggest, you're likely to burn out, or alienate him, or both. You don't have to think of "down time" in the comfort zone as "giving up", unless of course that is what you decide to do... Just a thought, maybe not relevant...
