You’ve just raised another issue that I’ve been wondering about. The C asked me how often I wanted to ML – not right now, but as an ideal. My answer to her was that I honestly didn’t know. My feeling was that two or three times a week sounded about right, but I felt that I wasn’t in a position to give a good answer right then. Right now it’s more like every day.
I told her that when there is no sex the pressure builds up like a head of steam. The pressure is always there and I always want sex. Getting my typical every-six-months sex is like bleeding off a little of the pressure, but still keeping the needle in the red. Since the pressure has never been down to normal, I don’t know what it would take to maintain that level if and when I do get there. FWIW, the C thought that was a good answer. She said that it showed that I was thinking about it and trying to set reasonable goals. She also said that she thought two or three times a week was a reasonable target.
So what do you HD people who have had some success with your SL think about this? Is it normal for your perceived level of D to decrease as you increase your frequency, or does it stay the same? Or is there really a lot of truth to the saying that the more you do it, the more you want to do it?
