Azure, I'm sorry things aren't looking up. Like the others said maybe you need to back away for a while and let him work things out. My choice to give XW space was made for me. It is the only option I have left. It could be months or even years before she contacts me, but I have let it be.
If you decide to go dark at least it is a decision you made and have control over. Let him chase you for a while.
