Sent this to H this morning:

Hi H,

One other thing. I gathered that you (or you and family) would be more comfortable if I didn't come to Brother's memorial service. (At least, that's what I inferred from your response to my question a couple of weeks ago). That's totally fine, I understand. I just wanted to clarify that I read this correctly. So, no response from you to this, and I will figure that I did. And it's ok, I have in mind some things I want to do privately, and I plan to drive up to [BIL's town, on the coast] -- at some other time -- to do so.

Lots of love to you and everyone this weekend.

Azure
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What I meant by his "response," is that when I asked him when the service was two weeks ago, and said that I would like to go but only if comfortable for everyone, he said he'd get back to me that day and then went dark for a week. Last Saturday when we were having the nice time (before the sh*tstorm/fight), he referred to BIL's service, and I said, "When IS BIL's service?" and he said it was [this] weekend, but gave me no particulars as to day/time/place (except that it's in BIL's town). But this morning I suddenly thought that I'd hate to make the ASSumption that I'm not invited, and then have him be hurt about that or throw it back in anger later. That's why I wrote that letter.

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