Azure, I won't make any excuses for what your H did. He sounds like a jerk. If I ever break up, I expect that W will need to be cared for.
What I do want to say is this. You are reacting. And you should. But realize that fact. He is controling you. He knows that. Maybe he gets off on that. I don't know. Maybe he does that to see you react. Then he knows that he is still in control of you. Is that what you want, Azure? Do you want to be that controled person? Predictable? Controlable?
I'm not giving you any help here, unless it is to help you see what is going on.
You are a good person, Azure. I wish you the best.
Ron
My new goal #1. Find happiness and hold onto it. Forget everything else. It doesn't matter. (Happiness helpers: Respect, Friendship, Humor, Music, Passionate Sex)