Quote: he said, "I've gotten tons of sympathy cards, but my birthday was kind of overlooked, so I really appreciate it." (Thanks, LL book, for making me see how important Gifts are to him).
And finally, he implied that it was good to talk to me because we have both been through tragic events, it's like it's understood that we don't have to talk about those events every moment, that it's ok to laugh or have fun or be irreverent, because one needs a break from the sadness. He said a lot of people don't know what to say to him, and also sometimes he really needs to NOT talk about it. I think we were pretty in-sync about that, so we alternated between serious talk about our losses, and silly, upbeat stuff.
You and H have a bond that no one else seems to be able to duplicate for him right now. He has a need - to get a break from all the sadness right now - and you seem to be the only one to be able to give him that b/c you know what it feels like to need that break. I can see why you say it is difficult and it kills you to talk about some of this stuff.
I do see this as a positive interaction between you two.
Still thinking about you. Hang in there, dear Azure.
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