Azure, Just stopped it to say hi. Hope you are doing well. Sounds like your drive down the coast was a successful diversion if nothing more. Now you know the man a little better and that is always a good thing. Hope your dog is doing better. Hope you are okay. Never forget that you count and your feelings count. You don't want to forget that while you are DBing.
Ron
My new goal #1. Find happiness and hold onto it. Forget everything else. It doesn't matter. (Happiness helpers: Respect, Friendship, Humor, Music, Passionate Sex)
My new goal #1. Find happiness and hold onto it. Forget everything else. It doesn't matter. (Happiness helpers: Respect, Friendship, Humor, Music, Passionate Sex)
Good, Ron! I'm glad you know that about yourself. Yay, you. Just got off an hour-long phone call with H. He got the present today and really liked it. He also was glad to get a birthday card separate from sympathy cards. and he also liked my sympathy card. We had a really good talk, as friends, about the whole thing, the heaviness, the need sometimes to get away from it all, the desire to return to the joys of life, etc. It was good. I felt pretty close to him, but in a different way than before. I didn't feel all desperate for his approval. I felt like he was a friend where we had both been through some serious sh*t, and we could understand each other. I'm glad we talked. (He called and left me a message thanking me for the present, I called back and got his vm and said I was really happy he liked it (plus I was all jolly from hanging out at my neighbor's house), and he called back again to talk (maybe because I was happy-sounding in my vm, and he was so tired of being sad). Anyway, a little part of me wants to cry, but overall it was very, very good.
Azure, I'm glad you finally talked with H. I'm glad it was good--poignant too, as you said over on my thread--but good. I'm sure it's too early and crazy to be thinking clearly about where is this friendship going, but it's good in some ultimate way to know that there is still a connection of the heart. I was especially glad to read that *you* were not feeling desperate or one-down this time. That is the only basis on which you can build whatever-it-is, I think.
Okay! I can't take it anymore! I had to check in with you. I'm glad to hear all of this: that the musician was good for you and nice to your dog, that you're feeling one-up instead of one-down, that you've finally talked with H-- all of that.
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Hi, Azure! It's good to hear that you talked to H. He does need some "ray of light" in his life right now. Based on his actions (i.e., the calls), he probably feels he can find that sunshine with you. You are being a great friend. Still thinking of you.
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Azure, I'm glad things are going well. It must be really hard to just be friends but I guess it's better than the alternative. I don't know if I can be just friends with my XW. I have too much love for her and when I see her I just want to hold her. Good luck and keep us posted.
Azure, It really is important to show that self confidence that you are showing now. H will see that. If a friendship develops, that is a good thing. If more, even better. If nothing, at least you have that self confidence back that makes you a better person. You are on the right track. These things take time. Ron
My new goal #1. Find happiness and hold onto it. Forget everything else. It doesn't matter. (Happiness helpers: Respect, Friendship, Humor, Music, Passionate Sex)
Hi Azure, Don't have much to add as I agree w/ the others . . . Just miss you I guess, and reading your thoughtful posts. I can understand, though, with all that's gone on if you don't feel much like updating your thread. Anyways, just popping in to say hi! and thinking of you. Hugs, -H2H
