Quote: Life changes, what are you going to do but stop fighting it and see where the river takes you?
I like this alot!!! You sound like you are in a really "good place" right now!!!
Enjoy your time with the musician today...BTW, how did you meet him?? Hope your dog approves!! LOL!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
Azure, I'm very glad to hear about times with a friend and ?new musician guy? as this is all for you. Will look forward to an update. I think you are wise to give H the benefit of the doubt....since doubting only hurts you right now and of course it is a stressful time for him.
Yay you....will look forward to hearing how your dog liked this guy .
He was very kind to my dog - he put a blanket for her in the back seat and called her sweetie. I had a nice day with him, we hung out from 10 am to 8 pm, drove down the coast, walked on the beach, ate at a great restaurant, visited a funky old cemetery. I'm not sure of the attraction level or if I'm ready for anything, but we talked a TON on a very honest level & I was very impressed with his openness, vulnerability and willingness to face his own sh*t and work on it -- H could take some lessions from him.
I had a dream this morning that H told me he wanted to come home and be together, and in the dream I was just kind of like, "Whoa," not sure how I felt except startled and confused. I have not heard a word from H since last Thursday morning when he said he would call me back later that day and didn't. I'm sure he has bigger things on his mind. But he doesn't seem to be reaching out to me at the moment.
Hi Azure, I'm glad you had a good time on your date! No need to decide anything on the attraction level or if you're ready - it's early for that. But it's great to get out, meet new people and talk openly & honestly. I sometimes think it would do me a world of good to get some honest attention from another guy even for only a couple of hours...
I agree that H is probably quite busy w/ lots on his mind. Would it be out of order to send him an email, or leave a vm and say you're thinking of him & is there anything you can do? I ask because I seem to remember him offering you comfort & support during your dad's illness. If H were just a friend, wouldn't you check in quickly to see how they were doing & if you could help in any way?
Hi H2H! Yes, regardless of what happens or doesn't happen, I think it was really a good thing to connect on a level deeper than surface with someone of the opposite gender.
Re checking in with H...Well, I sent him a b-day card which should have arrived over the weekend, and a present that should arrive tomorrow. I think I've made it clear that I'm thinking of him and family and am here if he needs me. Maybe he needs GF more right now (I know that's an ASSumption). Last time I talked to him he told me he couldn't bear to talk about it anymore, so I sent an email on other topics that I thought might cheer him just a little. So I feel like I have reached out, but I don't want to be intrusive.
Hi, Azure. Wanted you to know that I've been praying for you and your sitch, especially for H and BIL and family.
It's good to hear that you're taking time out for yourself. I'm glad you had a good time with the musician guy - and that your dog liked him too. I think it's sweet that you sent H a birthday card and gift. You have reached out and you can only go as far as he will let you. Just remember that people respond to loss differently. I'm sure you know that. You're doing a good job of being his friend.
Still thinking of you.
NSN My current thread LUVR ... Listen, Understand, Validate, and Respond
NSN, that touches me very much. Thank you for continuing to pray for H, BIL and family. (And for me, too, of course). You are a loving person to take the time, with all you've got going on.
Quote: So I feel like I have reached out, but I don't want to be intrusive.
Perfect attitude!!!
Glad you enjoyed the time spent with the musician. I agree a little male attaention is nice...doesn't have to be the next great love of your life....just a diversion and some fun!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
Azure, so glad to hear the day with musician guy went well and that he was kind to your dog. A good sign. Whatever happens, it's a great first step back into the world.
I don't think it's pursuit to call/email/write once to say to your H, "thinking about you." No expectations, just letting him know that you are a friend.
