Oh Azure, you make a whole lot of sense to me. Life is out there and it's just as alive as it was when we got sucked into this undertow.
Hope I didn't misrepresent myself re: the BB. I too have found it to be an amazing resource for me. But I do see differences between what the books suggest (control and responsibility over our own lives/choices in the R) and the attitudes in some areas of the BB (feeling of lack of the above). But I think that's also to be expected since we are muddling through with our tools...
I was reading something this morning for work-- that we all communicate much more confidently when we're not seeking someone's approval... and thought how much that relates to DBing and the comments you posted the last few days. Wow... it's so very true when I apply it to interactions with our Ss...
take care! Wonder
PS to Sun, how cool that you're having coffee with your C. I feel I really lucked out having the C I did. So very helpful and in tune with my values/ways of approaching the world.
