Quote: I certainly don't need to think of him as somehow "better" than me, just because he was the one who chose to reject me. Sometimes the DBing, while amazing, seems to me like coming from the "one down" position. Like H still has so much power to make me feel bad or good. But I really think I am beginning to detach from that.
No. You certainly don't need to think of him that way... because it's not the case. If I recall, even H has pretty nice things to say about you (as well he should!).
I can relate to your comment about the 'one down' position. I don't get that feeling from Michelle's books at all, yet do sometimes get that feeling from the BB.
In truth, the only power anyone has over our feelings is the power we're giving them. But yeah, I know, doesn't make us feel better sometimes even knowing that truth. Some emotions just feel icky. No way around that one that I can figure out.
I agree with Ron... if you want to speak and are asked, you go there. You belong there, and GF has no power over that. Plus, I'd guess she might be more uncomfortable than you are...
But you do what you need to do for yourself. You have a finely tuned instinct about that, from what I can see.
Take care of yourself, sweetie.
wonder
p.s. I may be taking a brief hiatus from posting because of what we discussed earlier... in case you're looking for me.
