*****You are not just here asking questions about sex. You are also asking how how you two can reconnect as a couple with intimacy, affection, and trust. Sex is part of that package, but not the only thing that you need. If it were, you would never have come here seeking answers, you would have had an affair and had those physical needs met and not thought twice about it.*****
This really caught my attention because really isn't this why we are here? I know if I wanted to have an affair I could.. It's not just about the physical pleasure.. By far.. I know for myself I want to feel wanted and desired by my H... I want to have that emotional bond with him. Yes the ML is the icing on the cake but to be honest it goes much deeper than that. Any of us could take the easy way out and go to someone else to meet our physical needs.. What we are searching and longing for is much more than the act itself... I want everything that comes with a compassionate marriage, along with the ML.
One question I have is when I am an affectionate person and he isn't how do you get passed that? I want so much to to be to caressed and cuddled.. I want him to pat me in the butt not just when he wants to ML. I also want passionate kisses in the middle of the day. I want to feel he values my needs as much as I value his. We have no control over our H so what do we do to get our needs met?
Sorry If I have change the subject.. It just does bring up questions I don't have answers to but I do know this much I am not looking somewhere else to get those needs met.. I want to make things work in my M and that won't happen if I go that route...
