There IS a big difference in a few weeks ago. No sex yet, but that's just me sticking to my guns.
She told me the other day that she felt like there was nothing she could do, since I've refused the "just do it" routine. I explained to her that I need to see her taking some step, however small, to make a change. (We've been real good at "saying" we'll change, but not taking action.)
I told her that she could change it quickly by saying to me, "I'm not quite ready yet, but I'm working on a surprise for you. I'll let you know in a few days when I'm ready." Just knowing that she's trying/reading something new would make me crazy for her!
Since I know she's reading some on the BB, I asked for suggestions from the HDW on what they think, how they approach sex, and what they do. I also asked for LDW who have become more HD for input on what they did to get there. My thinking is that my W would rather hear suggestions and ideas from someone else than me.
The challenge for me is to encourage her by non-sexual affection and words, but not to remove the incentive for change by overdoing it. I hate having to regulate it, but I've shot myself in the foot before.
Thanks for what you've shared about yourself. Your sense of humor about sex is a super idea in itself.
Mike - would love for sex to be easy enough to joke about it at home
