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I see your H getting it. And I think this is hard for him. Now is the time to really validate, really give him space when he's a grump, expect him to have down time after moving close, etc. I think you are really seeing results from your DBing.


Yes! I think he's getting it and it is hard for him. Especially with OW getting wackier.

I was helping H put his boat away last night, he spent about two hours washing it, he said to me out of the blue "we're moving after I get back from my hunting trip" (which is September). I just said "where" H said I don't care we're moving. I said out of state, then asked him why. H said "I'll tell you later" as he's looking around and shaking his head. Then he just said "I'm just going to leave" not come back from my hunting trip and H repeated I'm leaving you, I said you already did

I asked again what happened as I wanted to know and he said something like "remember when you were pregnant" meaning before we got married and more or less why we got married. And I said "she's pregnant?" and H said no, she's threatening to get pregnant...I said "well you have to sleep with her first don't you?" and left it at that, I mean come on.

The thing is it REALLY didn't bother me, didn't surprise me, made me want to say to H "yep, textbook OW" And, as my good friend Holdingon pointed out to me, a good reason for H to not want to have a lot to do with OW moving forward and that OW IS slowing hanging herself.

We had a great evening last night, H was in a good mood, relaxed and comfortable being at home kind of mood. I think he feels safe there and is beginning to think of our house as is home once again. H does outswing, but seems to be swinging back in a little quicker these days.

More space, more patience, that I can do.

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You go girlfriend.

Right back at you (we did more than just snuggle last night )
Cathy