Sometimes you just gots ta feel angry...And Cath, you have more than most to be legitimately P.O.'d about!
However I am happy to learn that your latest concerns re OW came to naught. My immediate thought re your H waking so early is that this is SOOOOO common in people who are depressed...and often guys who are depressed try to drink it away. (and long term drinking isn't exactly a protector from developing depression).
Of course, as always, just an observation.
I picked up a definite change of tone in your H's interactions on this thread vs three months ago (or whenever I was on last!)...it DOES sound positive, him noticing, him thanking you for your effort with his soggy sandwhich!
Honestly though, Cath, you must really love this guy...not sure I'd be where you are were I in your shoes (I might have killed him by now! JK!!)