Last night H go home from fishing a little before 10. S20 and H fished in a local tournament last night. When H got home, I could tell something was up, his body language, words were clipped. I helped him get the boat backed into the garage, H said he didn't need my help that he could do it, but I helped anyways.
H comes in the house, into the bathroom where I am and says "I have to go do something, I'll be back later" and left. H comes back about an hour and half later, I was in bed reading/dozing when he got back. H went into the bathroom to take a shower and I shut off the bedroom light. H showered got into bed and was way on his side of the bed and I just left him alone. I woke up a little before 3:30 am as H had gotten up to go into the bathroom, I could hear him getting dressed.
H went into the kitchen where H was and asked H what was wrong. He said "I can't sleep, having an anxiety attack" as he's putting his work boots on. I asked him if he wanted to tell me where he went and he said "no" so I didn't pursue it. I said are you going to work and H said why not I get up early anyways, you go back to bed, at least one of us should get some sleep.
H got in his truck, drove off, stopped and backed back into the driveway and then left again.
The positive here is that IF H did go to OW's he didn't spend the night, but then I really have no idea where he went or what was up either. BUT H did come back.
H did ask if S4 got to use his new baseball bat, I said yes he did, we went to my parents house and my dad, B and me played baseball. S4 did all the hitting, we did all the chasing of the balls, but it was fun and we had a good evening.