So #3 is a challenge to lots of us and here I thought I was the only one. I bought the M/V books and will make it my bible so to speak, really absorb and reflect on the information. I’ve already started it and have a few sentences highlighted:
“A man gets close but then inevitably needs to pull away” Haven’t we all seen this happen, even in the best of marriages.
“Men need a kind of love that is trusting accepting, and appreciative.”
“Women primarily need a kind of love that is caring, understanding and respectful”
Each of these will be discussed in chapters ahead, I'm really at the beginning of this book.
Quote: I am currently reviewing interactions with XH to see where those triger points are
I love this Water, “reviewing interactions” I have just started doing this mentally, but journally might be better.
Our mini-vacation was great, had a great time, and it was marvelous, simply marvelous. Last summer was great and that was because I made it great. I thought to have another great summer it would mean the days when I was doing MY thing with my friends, with my son. Because of OUR sitch, you know the OW, the hurt, the pain, wanted to think I couldn’t have a great summer while doing things with my H. BUT, decided Friday that I was going to have another great summer and it was going to include all activities with H, too.
I think I’ll list the positives here, there are a few rather than go into the details of the little over 24 hours that we were together. The first focus on me, not because I think I’m this awesome beauty or anything, but because of my H’s reactions to the way I looked.
1. H got home from work, I was dressed in a white spandex tank top with black and white cotton capri’s..well H’s look was “wow” H NOTICING is the positive. I dressed up for H on purpose.
2. We stopped on the way at a sporting goods store. I had to take S to the bathroom, H made his purchases and was waiting by the truck. As S and I were walking out of the store, out of the corner of my eye I could see H watching us the whole time.
(not sure if one and two are really positives, but will post them anyway as I don't really get that many reactions from H on my appearance, at least lately anway)
Other positives are going to sound silly and small, but to me they are important.
--H commented on my nails, they look terrible, but he noticed the one that looked the best. --H commented on a bracelet I was wearing and when did I get it. I gave him this little half smile and said “I’ve had it for awhile” and then H said when did you get it? I said years ago and that was that. A friend gave it me and I wear it a lot in the summer. --This is kind of big H let me drive his boat! Well not very far or anything, but he asked me to start it and to bump it ahead a little bit!! H has never let me touch anything about his boat, let alone sit in the driver’s seat! On our way home I brought it up, S had caught some fish, I caught one bass and then said “and I got to drive daddy’s boat” H had a little half smile on his face at that one. --We stopped at a McD’s on the way home for H to use the bathroom. S was asleep, I was half dozing in the truck and when H got back he had bought us both ice cream cones. I said S is going to be mad, should I put some on his nose so when he wakes up he’ll see we had ice cream.
We got home, got things out of the truck/boat. H decided he was going to head to his fishing spot and stay over. He’s planning on being gone till tomorrow.
What I’m going to post now is BIG, really BIG. H gave S a hug before he left I was in the kitchen also and H initiated a HUG with me!! Woohooo! We hugged I said thanks for taking us this weekend and that I had a great time…H wanted to say “yeah right” but he didn’t he just kind of mumbled something and then head out the door. I was so excited I didn't know what to do with myself after H left..I mean a HUG!
The last time H initiated a hug with me was in September of last year. I hope I don’t have to wait another nine months for the next one.
Our little town is having a parade at noon and then SS is coming over and all three of us are going to see SpiderMan II this afternoon. Probably head to my sister’s later this afternoon.
Woohooo! 
