That's a great post. For the first 5 years of my M, my W complained about me not "participating" in her life but I didn't "hear" it until recently. it might be too late, but at least she figured out a way to cope and stay married (though it was by becoming a roommate). It's weird that we have various points in which we gain understanding. I'm pestering my W these days over the sex...I might loose steam and retreat like she did 10 years ago. But when she turns 40 or something, this stuff might make sense to her. I feel like I owe her some years before I give up. A few months ago, I was afraid it was "all or nothing" but I think, if things stop improving, that I'll just go back to doing my own thing and not "participating" and find my own coping technique.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
