I have looked into and I am at least 50% of the problem. The difference now is that I am the one looking for a solution instead of sticking my head in the sand and hoping that it will go away.
I was thinking last night my W wanted me to go out and get a shake. I told her I did not want one and wasn't going to go get one. She said there was nothing she could do to persuade me into doing this for her. ie hinting that if I did this that we could make a deal and she would have sex with me. The reason I know this is becuase we have made that deal before. I will not do this anymore. I cannot believe how stupid I have been with this. That I would do anything for sex pretty much. That maybe I could buy her love for me. I realize now that I cannot buy her love so I have stopped trying to buy it. When and if she decides to give it freely without anything hanging over is when I will take it. So it maybe never that this happens but I will no longer degrade myself into being Needy, or lost without it.
