I'm really sorry, Lee. I know how difficult this is for you... after all, it is one of the things that my H was very upset about. Unfortunately, I did not listen to him. I don't have any more thoughts about how to impress it upon your wife. What does Michelle say in SSM?
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.