Lee, Listen to AtlDave. He is absolutely right when he says always talk in terms of what you want etc. It seems to work wheras asking W to change seems never to work. AtlDave (and I) have been there and done that and come out the other side.
Quote AD "Your perception of the relationship is exactly that..."a perception". Your (and my) W has her "perception" of the R. It's pretty rare to have them be identical."
I'm interested by the idea that the R is so completely different from each partner's perspective because I had not thought about it before. In my case from LDW's point of view her R is near perfect. She has a nice house, nice car, well behaved children, friendly hubby, enough money, sex on tap (if she wanted it). The only slight problem is H placing demands but he can be pushed away so no problem. From the HDH point of view - well you all know what it's like.
How very interesting... we are married to each other but we are in completely different relationships. SD
