Quote: How would it work if you opened with, "I need to tell you something. I'm not looking for a response from you. I just need you to hear me, think about it, and respond later."
I've tried that. No dice. The problem is that she never responds later. I've given her a week before bringing it up again. No answer, but I still didn't press her; I let it go for another week. Still nothing. Third week, still nothing. I gave up.
Oh Oh! I have been there! and I found a solution! I would let him know that I wanted to have my say, would answer questions if he had any, but did not expect him to respond at the end... that I wanted him to think about it, and get back to me. But.. I added, so that I don't fret and worry about when you'll get back to me, or whether you've forgotten, I'd like you to tell me now, when I can expect to hear back from you on this. It's important to me, so I'd like you to get back to me before the end of the week/weekend/whatever. But if you'll let me know now, the outside timeframe, then I won't worry or ask you about it inbetween.
Then I'd let him set a day... then usually had to ask about a time. (ie, if he said Saturday, I'd say, okay, I'll be doing x during the day, you'll be doing y during the day, so how about before dinner?)
It seemed to work, at least for us.
Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time, and annoys the pig.
