Quote: How would it work if you opened with, "I need to tell you something. I'm not looking for a response from you. I just need you to hear me, think about it, and respond later."
I've tried that. No dice. The problem is that she never responds later. I've given her a week before bringing it up again. No answer, but I still didn't press her; I let it go for another week. Still nothing. Third week, still nothing. I gave up.
We've been married for 28 years, six months, and 12 days - this has been her response EVERY TIME. She refuses to participate in any serious discussion that could precipitate a need for action. She'll talk about serious subjects that don't require any changes on her part. When I sold my business, she was quite willing to discuss the relative merits of various inventment options for the proceeds. She'll talk about problems with the kids and how to change their behavior. But she won't talk about sex. She won't talk about fiscal responsibility. She won't talk about anything that may necessitate a change in her behavior or her attitudes. Period.
