grislen wrote: I think the next convo has to be I want to make love twice a week. _________________________
Would it work to combine what AD suggested and incorporate your need, too? For example, you could begin with, "I've been thinking about our convo the other day and I realize I didn't communicate what I needed to very well. I want us to be closer. And I want us to have a more active sex life. I choose to believe that you weren't serious about me finding someone else to have sex with, and I'm not interested in that anyway. But I can't live the way we are now and I'd like us to discuss what we can do to make it better.
However she responds, you could HOY and continue, "I've determined that I need sex twice a week. Anything less than that and I'm an ogre with you and the kids. I'm willing to talk about what I can do to help make this happen, but I really need this."
