I finally had a talk with the wife

[NOPkins]

grislen said:
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I finally grew a couple and decided to have a talk with my W. I'm not very good at putting this down in black and white but I will give you guys my best shot.
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She said " well im ok with what I am and im not changing."
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Ok, so you got shot down. How many times have you been turned down for sex (rhetorical question)?

Plan to have the conversation again, soon. Plan what you have to say, and you will present it better next time. Don't expect a better response however.

If your choices are a sexless marriage, divorce, or a change in your relationship, then decide which one you want and pursue it until it reaches its' logical conclusion.

I think you want a change, that is why you are here, isn't it?

I hated this when my father used to say it to me, but in this case it works, so get up, dust yourself off, and get back in there. You can do it.

If you continue to press the issue, at some point in time, you are likely to find out what you have done to contribute to the current state of your relationship. When it comes up, fix it once and for all.

Constancy is the key to recovery.

-NOPkins-