Hi Maya - Timing can be critical. To be honest, I have not posted much these past couple of weeks, partially because I decided that it was time to come out of my dbing shell, and let him see the pain. It was just a gut feeling that he needed to see me for real, in order to make the next move.
Yesterday's letter was perhaps the first step. But I now tell him quite openly when something he says or does hurts. And he seems to be receptive, and is showing indications of changing when he can. We would not have got this far without dbing, but perhaps it was a 180, I found that crying when I felt like it, whether he was around or not. asking him point blank about what was going on with OW, these seemed to work. Only because he was ready, I believe.
