Betsey, maya and everyone else - I continue to marvel at how easy it is to relate to you, people I have never met. And indeed, to draw strength from your musings.
It was an OK weekend, lots of chores around the house got completed. No R talks, but of course, today being Monday, no doubt it will bring its usual fare of dramas. I'm keeping my head down.
I did pose to NG a few days ago if he thought he had the mental strength and emotional stamina to work through the healing that we will need. Especially if he is finding it so difficult to do what in his words is the right thing; to end contact with OW. He is still pondering on my question. Frankly it was a bare faced challenge.
In the meantime, an ex-classmate, who has the same birthday as me, wants to organise a HUGE shared 40th birthday bash, and I'm going for it. Whether or not NG is part of my life still, I figured a celebration is appropriate, I certainly feel like I've earned my stripes
Slowly 
